A couple years ago, I donated 14 inches of hair. I had grown my hair specifically to donate it and was delighted to get back to a pixie cut. I love short hair. I feel good in short hair. Short hair feels like me.
But I get bored. I don’t color my hair — don’t want to — and to have a new hairstyle after a pixie, you have to grow it out. And once I start growing it, I figure I might as well grow it out to donate. So, here I am growing out a pixie — again. I’ve done this several times in my life: in the awkward middle school years, through the weight-gaining college years, now when I often ask myself, “Have I fallen into a mommy-style rut?”
There’s nothing easy about growing out a pixie cut. It’s slow-going and awkward and shaggy and takes patience. I have found a few things that help.
BOBBY PINS. Lots and lots of bobby pins. Pin back your bangs. Pin up the sides. Create a bobby pin “headband.” I don’t do these sorts of hairstyles at work because they don’t feel very professional to me, though I have been known, in desperate times, to pull back my bangs with a bobby pin or two. But on the weekends, my hair is almost always pinned up at least a little.
HATS. If you’re comfortable in a hat and — and this is key — will not have to take the hat off, you no longer have to worry about your hair. I spent an entire sweaty baseball game in my son’s ballcap. It was wonderful.
REGULAR CUTS. Don’t go a bazillion weeks between haircuts. You’re likely used to getting a trim every eight weeks or so. Stretch it a little, but don’t wait forever. Having a decent shape to your hair as it grows out will help you be patient for the long hair you want. No one looks good all shaggy and shapeless. My hairdresser sister tells me it’s also better for your hair to be trimmed regularly. Plus, different styles along the way is half the fun. I’m about ready for a stacked bob and very much looking forward to my next haircut day.
GET A GOAL. For me, donation — and really, the instant mood lift I get when I whack off a foot of hair — is the motivation. Figure out why you want long hair. Get a goal in mind and keep it where you can see/think about it. You will have mornings when you want to hack off our hair yourself. Give yourself a good reason not to. It helps to have a friend around to remind you.
MEAN IT. Your hair does not look the way you want it to look. That doesn’t mean it doesn’t look good. Confidence is the key to pulling off a pixie; it’s also key to growing one out. Hold your head high, wear some pretty earrings and a cute outfit, and say thank you when people compliment you — because they will. And when they ask if you’re growing your hair out, don’t apologetically mumble yes or talk about what you want your hair to look like eventually. Say, “Yes, trying something new!” Because you are.